[amy40]

This is strange to me...It's always been "Our money"

husband has always said "our money"
so corrected my post

[Laffan]

Hi Love this topic. I am in a wonderful exciting long term Femdom relationship with my girlfriend with elements of all the above but one aspect in particular is a focus, 'she gets the sex she wants when she wants' full stop. Now, she always wants (and of course me too wants her to have) power and control outside the bedroom but in the bedroom and regarding my role of serving to all her needs these are sometimes around being (consensually) forced, raped and tied up, these are very hot desires for her despite being an utterly dominant and self centered Alpha female. I am so lucky!. My role is to satisfy those needs even though she is my domme. Although sometimes a struggle for me we make that work for us and it doesnt change the base power exchange. Is this conflict common?

[JennyA]

https://www.womens-health.com/submissive-husband-dominant-wife[/url]

A great read, and this reversal of power dynamics can be very healthy in any relationship and can be male or female, dominance is blind to gender.

[JennyA]

A husband’s submissive day-to-day actions may include:

• Doing housework like dishes and laundry
• Being available to drive his wife to appointments
• Giving her massages
• Buying her things
• Serving her food
• Committing to the wife’s plans without her having to ask first

this is my husband ^

I wouldn't classify this as BDSM but more Femdom, or a Female Led Relationship, and if done with consent and to resolve an uneven balance of a part of a relationship, as when behavior modification is done while sexualized it becomes mentally altering and can very effective therapy.

[Anamoly]

Hey the article was really amazing. right on the point. but I have some questions left-

1. does a man get sex (by which he is satisfied) in femdom?
2. do men enjoy femdom?
3. how do men enjoy femdom when they don't get sex from their own gf or wife but get orgasm denial or chastity device?

[Kate_Reed]

This is strange to me...It's always been "Our money"

Yeah, it is more strange for me too, than normal.

[BobM]

While this is an extremely helpful analysis of the topic of the male submissive, it missed one the most important aspects of the power exchange. Erotic humiliation is a primary feature of the sexual component of power exchange. I think the article could have included this dynamic in a more specific way.

[Big Boobed Mama]

I am submissive and he is not lol he likes it though. Do you think some men find it embarrassing to have a woman that’s submissive?

[JonnyR]

Big Boobed Mama Actually, I think many men like submissive women -- that's what makes the article so different is that this dynamic is not as prevalent as it being the other way around.

But I think there are tribes for both dynamics! Plenty of men love dominating their women in the bedroom (with consent of course!), and vice versa.

As long as both folks are happy with the arrangement, then anything goes!

[Wednesday L.F.]

Popped by this thread to talk MedFet. I'm very new to it. Tried a medical pinwheel AKA wartenburg wheel recently (it looks like a pointy pizza cutter which docs use to test sensitivity) and liked it very much.

Anybody else try one of these? They're fun, and a nice one costs about $20.